I feel sorry for the late Joe Paterno, even though I abhor the decisions he made. As a survivor of multiple acts of child sexual abuse, I believe everybody who allows it to happen should be held to account. But as a person who has looked away from a lot of crime, I have to wonder if he had a fear of something that none of his admirers could fathom. We never know what somebody else thinks or believes, and we never know the forces that influence them. That’s why it’s so important to instill in our children the rules that This and This and This are things you NEVER do, even if you believe that in this case it’s the right thing to do. Our subconscious fears cause us to rationalize without even knowing we do it.
You know, the sad thing is, statistically I’m probably not the only survivor reading this thread. And none of them want to hear that even though somebody could have stopped our suffering and didn’t, his other great contributions somehow balance it out.